If you know me and most of you do, you’re well versed in my mantra of “what are you telling yourself?” and “Is this true?” In order to move forward with emotional happiness and stability in life, we must be willing to live in the present. We must be willing to re-frame the narrative we have each created for ourselves. This narrative is our story and it’s only our story. It’s not our mother’s, father’s, friend’s, boyfriend’s, husband’s, wife’s, or anyone else’s, it’s our personal story that we have created and scripted. This means that only you can change your story. No one, absolutely no one, can do that for you. We create this story (remember it’s our interpretation which may or may not be evidence based) and rehearse it enough in our thoughts and mind until it becomes true to us. It “feels” true. Just because it “feels” true, doesn’t make ti true. Familiar story lines go something like this; “I am not loved,” “He (she) is not capable of love,” “I’m insecure because my parent(s) never fully accepted me,” “When my needs are met, I’ll be happy,” “Isn’t it time that someone tried to meet my needs?” “They have hurt me,” “Their apology was not sincere.” And on it goes with an endless narrative built on faulty interpretations that causes one to spiral out of control and often destroys their personal happiness and the happiness of those around. This often alienates family members, friendships, and other vital partnerships. Can you step back and just consider the possibility that our narrative and self talk may not be based on fact or evidence? What if the things you “think you need” are really not going to solve your problems? How would re-framing your negative self talk provide a different alternative and perspective to viewing you current emotional distress?
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