Posts Tagged "truth"

THE MIND IS such a wonderful and divine instrument, it knows exactly when we need protection.  In such cases, the mind will give us an excuse or rationale we can grab onto to shield us from harmful, hurtful situations.  These “defense mechanisms” the mind offers us are but a temporary shelter in the midst of a raging storm.  It is our duty, however, to move from beneath this shelter when it no longer serves our highest or greatest good.  In other words, when it keeps us from growing. Be sure not to tell yourself you “don’t” when you do want it.  Be mindful not to accept “you can’t” when you know you can.  Pay attention to the excuses you make “not to”, when you know you must.  Don’t settle...

Can you imagine how some individuals must have reacted when new evidence from scientists and philosophers began to emerge suggesting that the earth was round; not flat as had been believed for thousands of years.  After all,  the belief that the Earth was flat was almost universal until about the 4th century BC.  Promoters of this new idea were labeled heretics and insane.  And it’s understandable how people “felt.”  This was going to literally rock their world.  Try and remember your last time standing on the beach looking out toward the horizon where sea meets sky.  It gives the false illusion that that the earth is flat.  When I look out as far as the eye can see in any direction, it really “feels” like the earth is flat. ...

I first met Jack (not his real name) several months ago.  He had been referred to me because of his struggle with addictions and extreme anger. Practically homeless, he was in his early 50’s yet looked like he was in his late 60’s.  The substance abuse had clearly taken it’s toll in very visible ways.  I didn’t know Jack, I had never met him prior to his visit, but as his story unfolded, I began to connect the dots and realized I did know some of his family members. This was quite a surprise to me and I clearly remember the precise session that I realized my connection to his children. I won’t belabor Jack’s story.  It’s a familiar one for those who struggle with substance abuse.  He was in and out of therapy, attempting to maintain sobriety...

Yoruba Proverb Human beings are creatures of habit.  We do what we know, what is comfortable and what we ‘think” will work.  There are, however, those occasions when “our” way is not “the” way to get us to the goal.  When your way doesn’t work, don’t be disheartened.  You must be willing to try another way.  Don’t be discouraged when someone says, “no.”  Be willing to ask someone else.  Always be willing to start at the bottom.  Being willing does not mean you will stay there.  A closed door does not mean you have been cut off permanently.  It is a challenge, an obstacle, a tool to be used.  The keys to all doors are within you.  If you have faith in yourself, practice and patience will...

Ever experience what is referred to as “road rage?” You know, someone pulls out in front of you on the road then slows to a crawling 35 mph in a 50 mph speed zone and you suddenly have the urge to pull up beside them and make obscene gestures with your hands or fingers. Or you decide to pull up as close as you can to their rear bumper and flash your headlights.  This is a good example of unhealthy anger that boils up when one of our rules are broken.  We all have rules about life, ourselves and others.  We have rules about how others should treat us. Rules about being on time, being accepted and how our children should behave. We have rules about how other children should behave. We establish our rules about  “knowing,” or being in control of...