Psychology

Whether it’s Katie Couric’s face front and center with tears streaming down her rosy cheeks after learning that she is dead last in Nielson ratings, or the fawning reporter’s continuing love affair with BO (Barak Obama for first timers); the MSM is continuing to lose any remaining credibility. I consider the MSM to be the nightly news, (ABC, CBS, NBC), most daily newspapers, and websites belonging to said networks.   Most of you know I’m a news junkie and often surf MSM sites as well as other sites (Drudgereport.com, Foxnews.com theamericanthinker.com,  etc).  Today during one of my surfing expeditions, it occurred to me that the MSM (eg. ABCnews.com) touts perverted and sick stories disguised as news.  Most MSM  stresses and...

Develop a strategy to win.  A strategy is what you would rely on to win. It must be unique and compelling. Perform your personal situation analysis.  Consider your gifts.  Most clients I talk with never think about their gifts. Their focus is usually on negative self talk which reflects what they can’t do, aren’t doing, or their victimization.  Consider what new opportunities your situation could bring. Think about starting over and doing something you are most passionate about.  Identify clear, specific, actionable, realistic objectives.  Be clear what exactly a “win” would look like.  What does your competition look like?  Develop a separate strategy for each form of competitive obstacle.  Does your passion align with the current...

When my two boys left home for college the first time ( about 8 yrs ago) I was 48 yrs old. My life was moving too rapidly for me.  Where had time gone?  What had I accomplished?  Would I live another 30 yrs?  Where would I go from here?  It included all of those life and death weighty questions that more and more men are becoming aware of and are now just beginning to articulate with a little more clarity (in their own heads if not out loud).  In the past, it wasn’t really acceptable (read masculine) for men to admit their fear of mortality or their dread of aging and the bodily function failures that so often occur.  Hey I admit it, I’m scared.  So instead of admitting and discussing these apprehensive notions, we just put on gold chains,...

In the default mindset of emotional isolation, triangles are often created to compensate for the lack of intimacy. Based on family theory systems, when parents cannot solve their conflicts, they are likely to pull in the child who helps to release anxiety and tension. Triangulation occurs when one of the partners (husband or wife) invites a third party to confide in, or escape to, for the purpose of filling one’s emptiness which occurs when emotional intimacy is missing. Some triangles may provide a level of stability for the family without causing damage. Other people outside the home or objects and diversionary activities can also help form the triangle.  For example, instead of intentionally trying to work through and resolve difficult problems...

Emotional and spiritual intimacy with our spouse requires vigilance, transparency and sharing which creates strong emotional bonds. These bonds have seminal origins and usually germinate during a healthy dating relationship prior to marriage.  A healthy dating relationship can help establish an early framework for spiritual and emotional bonding; however these bonds cannot completely be formed and sealed until man and woman enter into God’s ordained matrimonial covenant with each other. It is then a “mystery” that allows the two to become “one flesh” revealed. The challenges of marriage can persist throughout a relationship and can at times be intense and overwhelming.  However, couples are especially vulnerable shortly after...

Commitment-Successful marriages are built on an unwavering commitment that husband and wife make to each other and to God.  Without deep commitment, a deceptive, soft, comforting voice may begin playing in the background of our often unconscious self talk that grows louder and more prominent when troubles come (and they will surely come).  The self talk goes something like this; “if this doesn’t work out, I can always find someone else.” “I’m not appreciated or valued in this relationship so I’ll find someone who will offer me more happiness.”  “You never show me any attention.” The muffled volume of background self-talk sound more subtle in the beginning, but creates a potentially dangerous crack which...